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Independent Singapore
31-07-2025
- Business
- Independent Singapore
New employee says manager called her ‘too introverted' and questioned if she's right for the job, wonders if she should quit
SINGAPORE: After receiving critical feedback from her manager during a performance review, a new employee took to Reddit to ask, 'Should I find another job?' Posting on the AskSingapore subreddit on Thursday (July 31), she shared that she felt discouraged after her manager told her that the quality of her work had fallen short of expectations. 'She thinks that my current work for producing social media content is not up to standard as compared to my portfolio. My previous background was in social media as well.' To make matters worse, the manager also commented that she might be 'too introverted' for the role and repeatedly urged her to consider whether the job was 'truly suitable' for her 'There were also other small things she pointed out,' the employee added, explaining how the constant criticism has slowly chipped away at her confidence. 'I'm pretty disheartened and questioning my ability, and not sure how to move forward, as the feedback during the first month was positive for this part. I really like the industry of the job and job scope, but things aren't looking great.' Stressed out by the feedback and fearing that she'll eventually fail probation, she asked fellow users, 'Should I start to find another job? Do I include this job in?' 'Don't give up if you're passionate about it.' In the comments, one Singaporean Redditor responded, 'Sorry to hear that, but you may want to start looking for another job just in case. Your boss seems to be dropping hints. As you've been working for only two months, I personally wouldn't include that on my CV. Good luck.' Another said, 'Time to look for a new job once your boss doesn't think you're suitable for the job.' Some, however, felt that the employee shouldn't be so quick to consider leaving. They suggested she take the manager's feedback as constructive criticism and focus on growing from the experience. One user added, 'It's only your first two months. There will always be room for improvement. Ask her how you should improve. Take pointers. Try your best to fulfil what she says in the next review.' 'At least improve bit by bit. Social media is a very tiring job. No breaks usually. Tell her that you're still adjusting. Don't stress. It should be manageable when you get the hang of it. All the best and don't give up if you're passionate about it.' Should you quit right away after receiving negative feedback from your boss? It's totally normal to feel a little down after getting criticised at work, but that doesn't mean you should quit right away. According to job site Indeed , feedback can actually be a great chance to grow. Here are some steps you can take, according to career experts: Understand what your manager is looking for. Think carefully about the feedback you received during your review. What were the main points your manager highlighted? Try to sort them into two groups: what needs to be improved right away, and what can be worked on over time. Once you've done that, come up with a step-by-step plan to address each area. Don't hesitate to ask questions. If there's anything in the feedback that you didn't fully understand, it's perfectly okay to ask your manager to explain it further. Ask them what specific results they want to see and whether there are any key goals or targets they'll be using to measure your work. Have weekly check-ins. Try to arrange a short meeting with your manager once a week. These regular check-ins are a good opportunity to raise questions, get feedback, and show that you're putting in effort to improve. Read also: 'What to do? Please help' — Employer frustrated after learning maid spends 80% of her time on social media
Yahoo
12-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
When I started a new job, I tried to be the perfect employee while also juggling motherhood. My performance review proved I was failing.
When I started a new job, I tried to be perfect while also juggling motherhood duties. My performance review showed me I was failing miserably, and something needed to change. Despite the initial shock, this failure turned out to be a blessing in disguise. My performance review at work stopped me in my tracks. I was in shock when my manager told me I had achieved brilliant results, but my lack of attention led to minor mistakes, which eventually became a pattern and negatively affected my performance. That day, I managed to go back home, keeping my head high but in a fog of confusion. It was only when I arrived at my house and went on my balcony that the weight of what happened piled on me. I felt like a failure. I tried so hard to juggle so many plates: being a great mom to my baby daughter, learning the nuts and bolts of my new job, and keeping it all together. But the mental overload was massive. I was dropping off and picking up my daughter from day care every day, working all day, preparing dinner for everyone, putting my daughter to bed — and often falling asleep next to her — then waking up at 2 a.m. to clean the kitchen and tidy the living room. Something needed to change. On that day, I cried on my balcony for hours, releasing months and months of bottled emotions that needed to be released: anger, resentment, shame, disappointment from everything I accepted despite fuming inside, the unsolicited guidance for my daughter, people's judgment about me coming back to work after only six months maternity leave, and my perfectionism. It was too much. After letting all of those emotions out, something shifted, and I realized I had lost perspective. I was so engrossed in day-to-day life that I couldn't see what was happening. I was on a mental roller coaster, like a hamster in a wheel, and I needed to be stopped. I started to observe what I was doing and realized that I was indeed making many minor mistakes. It was like preparing a chocolate cake; the center is delicious, but the look of the cake repels you from even trying it. When I saw my mistakes with my own eyes, from a place of non-judgment, I had a breakthrough moment and understood why I needed someone to be honest and tell me the truth. From that, I wanted to do better. I created my own audit system to stop making these mistakes, but this "wake-up call" led me to reflect, to stop trying to be "perfect," and to ask for help. I spoke to one of my friends about what happened, and she helped me ask my manager for flexible hours. He agreed to change my schedule, helping me to be less stressed and on time to pick up my daughter from day care. Meanwhile, my husband agreed to bring my daughter to the nursery every morning. When I made these changes, I felt a sense of freedom. I could take the time to do things. I didn't feel as pressured as before, and I could enjoy being in the present. I fell into the trap of isolating myself with very high standards before, and I didn't want that anymore. I wanted to rely on others and focus on the things I can control. This new pace of life led to another change. I came across an article in a personal development magazine, and it resonated so much with me that I bought it immediately. I still wanted to be a great mom, wife, and friend, but I realized one important thing: I had to keep my cup filled, so I could be there for myself and others. This magazine also helped me gain a deeper understanding of what happened to me, sparked my curiosity about wellness practices, such as meditation, and helped me be clear about what I wanted. Failing was the best thing that happened to me. It opened my eyes to asking myself what I truly wanted and to living a more mindful life. Most importantly, it helped me be my best self. Read the original article on Business Insider
